My husband is retired now, but we managed to make it work. We both had the belief that we are partners. When I needed spiritual care, I turned to him just as I turn to him in all other areas of our marriage if I needed an ear or advice. If he needed an ear, I was always there for him to listen or make suggestions if he asked. We did not try and separate who he was as pastor from being a husband. 49 years and counting.